When I was talking with my middle-class classmate about the “Datong rape case,” we discussed whether there was a preference for sons over daughters in his family. Then he told me about his sister’s situation.
His sister has been on a leave of absence from school for a month. According to my middle-class classmate, it was because she was ostracized and targeted by the “stinky intellectuals” at school for not following the school’s reactionary discipline. Also, during PE class, she was hit by a ball thrown by a classmate, and she slapped that classmate. This led to gossip among the students, and she couldn’t bear the pressure from public opinion, so she stopped going to school. At home, feudal parents brought in relatives one after another to pressure her, so she didn’t dare to go out and became obsessed with anime and games at home. Recently, this girl, pressured by the feudal parents to go back to school, suddenly attempted suicide but was fortunately rescued in time. (In the following text, I will refer to my middle-class classmate as “older brother” and this girl as “younger sister.”)
But according to the older brother’s description, the younger sister’s mental state should not have been severe enough to attempt suicide. Moreover, in a chat record provided by the older brother, the younger sister mentioned that when she was a child, her mother cursed the older brother, and her tone revealed despair about this family. Coupled with the sudden extreme act of suicide and the older brother’s previously casual attitude toward the younger sister’s situation, it can be inferred that the younger sister completely distrusts her family, and her family has never truly cared about her.
Now the younger sister has returned home, and the older brother is temporarily staying with her. But when I asked the older brother how he planned to handle the younger sister’s mental issues, he avoided answering. When I asked how the younger sister was doing, he said, “Very well, no problem.” When I criticized his parents, he said, “Don’t stir things up.” So I feel the older brother has already given up and is conforming to the feudal parents in handling the younger sister’s mental issues. Also, the older brother is usually a parasitic student who only knows how to play games and watch anime; he will go back to school and continue playing his games without caring about his sister’s problems.
After discussion, I plan to severely point out the older brother’s problems and his neglect of his sister’s life, hoping to make him take this issue seriously. Because I cannot communicate directly with the younger sister and do not know her personally, this is the only action I can take now. I hope everyone can offer suggestions and brainstorm to help this girl.
Something outrageous happened: the arrogant “stinky intellectual” came to our house and arrogantly told my younger sister to go back to school. He even disgustingly said, “If you don’t go to school, are you going to get married?” My sister’s mother even smiled and apologized to the teacher. Seeing this, my brother got angry and scolded that “stinky intellectual.” Now my brother is less upset about this and is willing to talk with me about what to do next.
My younger sister still wants to go back to school for exams, but she also said she will go to vocational school afterward, not high school. Later, my older brother told me that he will accompany her to the exam tomorrow, and if they encounter Lao Jiu being disgusting, he will deal with him.
I’ll see if I can help when I go back later; this despicable scholar is really disgusting.
For now, just let my older brother do the family work. Don’t be so spineless as to kowtow to the ninth child; this way, their kids won’t be able to hold their heads high. Then persuade them not to force my younger sister to focus on academics; let her be. Now even grandma at home finds the ninth child disgusting and wants to scold them, but mom is still relatively soft-hearted. Dad is working away and doesn’t know about these matters.
Is there any way to contact his sister directly?
Not for now. Her brother told her before that I wanted to talk to her, but I don’t know her, and she is unwilling to talk to me, a stranger.
Now I just don’t know how to make friends with her younger sister, because we live far apart in reality and have no chance to interact.
Yes, this older brother’s attitude is also relatively weak and wavering. Although it’s a bit better now, I can’t say what will happen later. It’s best to directly contact the younger sister to ask about the specific situation and help her. We can’t completely rely on the older brother’s ideological struggle to improve; otherwise, who knows how long it will take, and this matter is so urgent.
We must adhere to the principle of truth combined with sincerity and speak straightforwardly: “Only Marxism can save you.” Directly criticize the evils of capitalism to her, explaining the source of her suffering. Avoid beating around the bush; women will definitely think there’s something wrong with you if you do. Under safe conditions, tell her some truths. Actually, WeChat does not strictly control private chats as long as the organization is not exposed.
Okay.
May I ask how the situation is now?
Added as a friend, but since she is a stranger, she doesn’t trust me when I suddenly said a lot, and she hasn’t replied yet.
If you’re not familiar, speaking too much at once can easily arouse suspicion because capitalist society is characterized by indifference and selfishness. If you come across as overly enthusiastic and excited right away, people may easily suspect you have ulterior motives. However, you might be able to learn about the general situation at home now through her brother?
His older brother is now also like a mysterious dragon, appearing and disappearing; when I send him messages, he takes a long time to reply… He’s probably partying all night and sleeping during the day. The current situation at his home is that his younger sister is still at home obsessed with the anime/manga culture, and his family hasn’t dared to let her go to school. However, his sister still wants to take school exams and said she plans to attend a vocational high school later instead of a regular high school.
How is her brother’s attitude towards the family? Looking at the earlier description of her family’s situation, it seems this family is both very Confucian and very reactionary, also forming a sacred alliance with the “stinky old nine” to suppress the children. They are good at internal conflicts but poor at external ones. Children in such a family have no way out. She feels dissatisfied with the oppression at home. I wonder if her brother has any grievances towards the family. I think we can’t just let her brother indulge in debauchery and ignore everything when facing these issues. Also, since you are closer to her brother, it might be better if you can first persuade him to fight against the family. It seems good to start by understanding the basic living conditions. Moreover, since you are both in the same school, you probably both have grievances against the educational institution.
I’ve known his brother for six or seven years. He’s just a petty-bourgeois right-winger who only cares about games and anime. He’s still very obedient to his parents and doesn’t want to break free from being parasitic. I used to often send him news, and even when I first got into Marxism, I argued with him about the characteristics of socialism with Chinese characteristics, but he still had the attitude of “it’s none of my business, as long as I can enjoy myself.” Recently, I talked to him about history and sent him “A Draft History of Modern China,” but he just treated it like a class to pass the time, and after class, he went back to playing games.
He is deeply addicted to parasitic debauchery. I’m no longer in the same school as him, and all his friends around him are also lecherous men.
So I think her brother is unreliable, and previously I asked him: “What does your sister think politically, like her views on her own family conditions and society?” As soon as he heard me mention politics, he said: “If we hadn’t known each other for so long, I would really think you’re crazy.”
This older brother of his is probably someone who wastes a lot of time on lowbrow interests, consuming too much mental opium, which has led to a decline in his thinking ability. Moreover, as a student living a parasitic life, his behavior and way of handling things follow extreme bourgeois selfishness, so you can’t get much from him. When you ask him about current news, he just says what does it have to do with him. He doesn’t understand that “caring about politics is actually caring about oneself.” There are too many people like him around me. His response to you is truly shocking.