Help request to comrades

Today, when I was talking to my father on the phone, I explained that I wanted to go straight to work in a factory after graduating from high school without attending college. But my father completely rudely refused, saying that since I am a parasitic petty bourgeoisie and have wasted so much money in the past, I should get out and fend for myself, not waste his money. Then, my father said I am “idle and unlearned, think knowledge is useless, perform poorly in school, can’t even grasp basic knowledge, and dare to talk about social ideological reform” (those things used to pass exams are also called knowledge?!). A bunch of toxic words like “no matter how the country is, it is always better than before,” “I belong to the Chinese nation” (big national chauvinism, productivity-only theory, opportunistic wealth ideas, etc.) were thrown at me. No matter what reason I used, he wouldn’t listen, only using self-deceiving words like “your thoughts are not mature yet, you have been poisoned by others,” “you haven’t even seen it yourself, why are you fantasizing here!” to oppress me (your poison isn’t light either!). Then he started talking about his selfish views, saying “what does exploitation in society have to do with me?” But because he wanted to win me over and focus my attention on opportunistic studies, he also said that my thinking is good, but now I “think reading is useless,” which he cannot tolerate, demanding that I must focus on my studies and only study Marxism as a hobby. He also said that once I mature, he won’t care anymore (fat chance! By then, I would have long been addicted to opportunistic studies and unwilling to revolution). To avoid his despotic suppression (beating and hitting), I had to soften and submit to him. He ordered me to write a timetable and a self-criticism, to call back tomorrow, and then dropped the matter.

Additionally, I want to mention something I haven’t talked about: our bourgeois “relatives.”

This refers to my aunt and uncle, both of whom are bourgeoisie and currently live elsewhere (my father is there too). My aunt is my father’s sister; she became a bureaucrat through the Zhongxiu government exams at the beginning of the century and is now a department-level official. My uncle is a senior executive at a branch of a certain group, with a substantial income. They buy properties and shops with full payment everywhere, and even bought a unit in Guangdong Yangjiang City Center for vacations. They have a son and a daughter, and my cousin studies at the best bourgeois school locally. His parents want him to study medicine so they can get involved in the local healthcare system (besides that, they have connections in all bureaucratic fields). My cousin, now in fourth grade, often bullies me when I visit their home (because I seem more honest). Since my family’s bourgeois grandfather passed away and my father became a petty bourgeoisie, aside from my father working as a small electrician and computer repairman and my grandmother’s pension, we often rely on help from my aunt and uncle. Last year, my father couldn’t find work locally, so he sought help from them. They helped my father open a small supermarket this year, and in his self-introduction, my father is called the “small shop owner,” referring to this supermarket. My father often interacts with my aunt and uncle there, even staying at their house, and is influenced by bourgeois ideas.

Comrades! How should I resist my father’s bourgeois dictatorship in the future? I personally do not want to go to university; I want to go straight into a factory after high school to reform myself and prepare for the revolution as soon as possible.

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Can I pack my things and run away secretly?

It is necessary to combine with the actual situation and avoid leftist tendencies.

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Secret escape is basically impossible to succeed. The comparison between Beifeng’s side and his family is very obvious; the power disparity is huge, and his family also has connections with bureaucrats in Zhongxiu. After reporting to the police, using connections and tools like Tianyancha to monitor can locate Beifeng. Once the person is captured and brought back, even harsher dictatorship measures will be implemented. When giving suggestions, it’s important to consider the specific situation and not just fantasize.

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Can I just run away directly :thinking:

No, I haven’t saved enough for travel expenses; and even if I run away, the police will catch me with tracking dogs.

Are you an adult? If you are an adult, the police cannot arrest you directly and take you back.

I’m not very clear about your usual relationship with your father, and how your college entrance exam results are, or how much your family values this score. Also, since your father is so close to these bourgeois elements, he definitely wouldn’t let you go out to “reform society”; if you want to go out, you’d have to do it under a different name.

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I am only 16 years old now, about to start my second year of high school; because my father often works outside, I have little time with him and not much communication. My father values my academic performance very much, probably because my sister’s poor grades led her to attend a college, which still bothers him, and he wants to try his luck with me. Thanks to the comrade’s reminder, I will run away when the college entrance examination approaches.

By the way, why did I talk to your dad about this yesterday?

Make plans early to avoid him completely rejecting it before I graduate; but now it seems that no matter what, he cannot accept it.

For such stubborn elders, telling them in advance is just to let them prepare early. Actually, I have had this idea too, like giving them a heads-up so they won’t get anxious if I don’t go to college later. But in reality, it’s as if they can accept me not going to college, which is not the case at all; I am just overestimating my family members. In the end, they will still get anxious. To them, if this pension fund isn’t used for college, it’s useless; for them, it’s a matter of class interests, and they simply cannot accept it.

This is a huge mistake, but my father would never think I would dare to run away. Now I can only temporarily keep him calm and reduce his vigilance; at the same time, I am actively saving for the fare, waiting until I get my high school diploma to run away. If the revolution doesn’t succeed, I won’t go back.

What did you and your dad say yesterday

I called him and started by chatting about everyday topics to lower his guard, then naturally mentioned that I wanted to work in a factory after graduation; but obviously he didn’t fall for this and directly rejected me.

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I feel that the criticisms your father makes are very typical. My family members have also said similar things in the past, like “first take care of yourself and improve yourself,” or “no matter what, as a student, you should focus on studying well first, and leave the rest for later.” All just to deceive people.

But I want to ask, do you talk to your father about Marxist ideas? I see you mention here that your father talks about “parasitic petty bourgeoisie,” “social ideological transformation,” and even suspects that you have been “poisoned by others.” I think it’s best not to reveal your political views to your family too early, as it can be very dangerous and also not good for you to leave home; otherwise, from your family’s perspective, it would be “my child has been deceived by a cult/trafficking organization, and now refuses to listen to parents’ discipline, insisting on going out alone.” If it turns into that, it becomes very risky.

Actually, even if you don’t directly discuss sensitive political issues or your ambitions, you can still say the right things and fight with your family. You can talk about how you have been oppressed at home and at school, and how your current life is very difficult. Don’t they want you to focus on your studies? Then tell them that your current life pressure is so high that you can’t concentrate on studying, gradually instilling in your family that you dislike studying. On one hand, limit the debate to issues like your schooling and pressure (don’t let them think you’ve been brainwashed or taught by someone else; make them think these ideas are naturally your own, even if it’s true). On the other hand, force your family to make concessions in their pressure management (because the logic is: if the pressure is so high that I can’t study, and you still give me more pressure, I will become even less inclined to conform). Step by step, try to gain more rights at home, such as opposing domestic violence, having your own free time, not being constantly monitored, etc. This way, your family will gradually accept reality and stop imposing their dreams of compliance on you (though they won’t give up easily; you’ll need to persist for a long time and use facts to make them give up). In the future, you can also say that you want to live your own life, not live under your family’s control forever, that you don’t want to go to school, and that you want to go out to work, be independent, support yourself, and develop your abilities. But this is a long-term struggle. My advice is roughly like this; this approach should be fine, and although it sounds fabricated, it’s actually all based on facts—just avoiding the most sensitive political topics.

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Sometimes I talk to him about current politics, and I happen to add some Marxist remarks. Also, he did say yesterday that I was poisoned by “religion.” Furthermore, I really should use my academic language as a tool for struggle; otherwise, discussing politics would lead to repression under dictatorship. But I am sure my father would never agree to me dropping out and entering a factory (after all, his bureaucratic sister and brother-in-law, who are high-level officials, have a profound influence, and he himself has class reactionary tendencies), so as soon as I graduate, I will prepare my things and escape directly. As for my living condition? I plan to start writing weekly school reports for the comrades right after I start school, updating once a week, so that the comrades have a reference.

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I didn’t expect that the Beifeng family still has official backing, so leaving would indeed face significant resistance. Although Zhongxiu now tacitly allows 16-year-olds to work, given your family background, it’s safer to wait until you’re 18 and an adult. I agree with Hong Shu’s point of view. Don’t reveal your political stance for now, and don’t imagine “persuading your parents.” First, fight against the current restrictions and oppression you face, and after gaining some freedom, slowly discuss how to detach from the old family.

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How is the current situation with the north wind?

Currently, the computer can only be used from 8 a.m. to 12 p.m. in the morning, can you lend me my grandmother’s phone? Other than that, there are no restrictions, but my father came back from out of town today and said a bunch of now typical bourgeois words, such as his belief that social development relies on the absurdly advanced productive forces! What other heaven-defying words does he have? For example, he believes that “Chairman Mao did not crack down on production during the Cultural Revolution,” I can only say that’s just how he is.